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Love-shyness (LS) is a term coined by Dr. Brian Gilmartin (1940-2016) in his 1987 book Shyness and Love: Causes, Consequences, and Treatment, referring to a specific shyness around potential romantic partners, often severe enough to impair or prevent entirely participation in DSR (dating, sex, and relationships). Dr. Gilmartin estimated that up to 1.5% of American men may suffer from LS, and he has also posited a significant correlation between LS and Asperger's Syndrome.

LS is related to, but distinct from, involuntary celibacy (incel); while both conditions entail a difficulty forming relationships, there are others factors besides shyness and inhibitions that can cause these problems. Those afflicted with the two conditions very often have markedly different personal histories that brought them to this point. Both types are represented on our discussion forums.

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